Rules of victory over himself

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A man is more than his Facebook account, bad habits say: he smokes – he is prone to self-destruction and neurosis, he drinks – he doesn’t control himself and is weak-willed, eats a lot – goes on, easily fit and selfish. Yes, in many respects demons identify us as individuals, work for uniqueness, but, in the end, “no one has died from the glass” – a blatant lie! None of us are not without flaws, but especially for you we have made a short plan of action to become better.

Adjust yourself to the result

You have a long and painful road ahead. To part with expensive, convenient and pleasant is the most difficult, but no pain no gain – you can become better, and nothing is given for nothing. You will be korezhit and break the first days, even weeks, but it will pass – after that you will not remember. And the replacement will come self-esteem and pride for themselves. And this will not take away ever. The game is always a candle if it changes your life for the better.

Don’t doubt yourself

Inside of each of us sits a small, disgusting “divan” analyst who criticizes everything. Kill him, it’s legal. Ideally, in the most ruthless way. It is he who whispers that this vanity is unnecessary and you feel so good. This is what he brings to mind the reports and conversations with friends about how painfully to throw the bad. And thanks to him, you still do nothing: he blocks your perception of yourself. Believe me, he is far from Belinsky: the values ​​in it are 0.

Stop talking to provocateurs

Surely you have such a friend who does not see anything terrible in a bottle of beer after work, a large box of nuggets or criticizes the behavior of your girlfriend. He always knows best, he needs a companion for self-destruction, and you absolutely do not need him. Such people provoke conflicts, and in the depths of their souls they want with all their might that you are worse than them. And if they need to be better than you and they are interested in your fall, then do you need it?

Make a clear schedule of life

The habit is developed in 20-25 days. This means that all the efforts that you have made, and the limitations from which you suffer, will end in less than a month! Your body is an amazing thing, and it adapts to everything. But no one forbade tricks. Score your schedule to the maximum: training, walking, reading in the fresh air, theater, bowling – anything, just not to sit at home and marinate in your own head.

Install taboo topics

If your friends really worry about you, they will gladly meet you: from now on, all your bad habits are a forbidden topic. Do not talk about them with anyone, do not write on the thematic forums and do not complain to mom and dad on the phone. So you only provoke yourself and drive from empty light. No means no. You yourself decided so, and therefore, so be it. Don’t discuss it with your friend either – you’re not trying to run into pity and praise, are you?

Ask for help

You will find yourself in a difficult situation, but the goal is noble for all 100. You are modifying, upgrading – this is only a plus sign, and in such a matter it is not a shame to ask for help. Yes, it hurts to leave, but it is necessary: ​​you yourself will not exactly throw out that hidden jar of chocolate paste or a box of pasta, your “last” cigarette will be each new, and the “deserved” beer will be a ritual. And friends and relatives will rid your lair of all provocative content. Just do not throw at them because of the pesto sauce – this is not human.

Praise yourself

You will work hard, sacrifice and suffer – such is commendable. Develop a reward system for yourself: for every three days you live without a bad day, buy yourself some nice little thing. Our brain is very susceptible to rewards, and very soon you will begin to try for the sake of this encouragement. The system works, you feel better, and the end of stress is getting closer and closer.

Develop the “if … then” protocol

In life, you can abandon the destructive, quit harmful, do not think, do not speak and clear the house of reminders. But on the street you will face your harmful past with a probability of 100%. Be ready: develop a model of behavior that will work on such a confluence of events. For example, you can offer yourself to eat three cucumbers instead of muffin, drink a glass of pomegranate juice instead of a glass of wine or go to the book shop instead of a pub. “If … then” will help you to always know what to do in any incomprehensible situation.

Start a piggy bank

Punish yourself, but more painfully – with a ruble. Get yourself a big transparent jar with a slot for bills and throw 500 wooden into it for each breakdown. You can organize the method of carrot and stick in your own head, and by the end of the change you will also save up a good amount. Although we hope not.

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